Emotions permeate the lives of individuals and organizations. For good or ill, emotions create patterns of thought and behavior that are the essence of an organization’s culture. When Coaches and leaders who operate from the Renewal Coaching perspective help others identify patterns of destructive emotions, and the impact they have on an organization, and encourage them to disrupt those patterns by even small changes, they create a powerful antidote to existing emotional toxicity in the organization. In doing so, they make room for continuous and growing cycles of renewal and direct a relentless focus on the greater good.
As an aside, the term destructive emotions, comes from a series of scientific dialogues known as the Mind and Life Conferences that were held between the Dalai Lama and other Buddhist scholars as well as Western psychologists, neuroscientists and philosophers from all over the world. Destructive emotions refer to any emotion that leads people to do something that harms them or someone else. While there isn’t a single list of what these emotions are, and there are differences between Eastern and Western paradigms about what these emotions are, most agree that fear, anger, jealousy, rage, and hatred can lead to actions that inflict harm. As Yoda said in “The Empire Strikes Back”:
“But beware the dark side. Anger, fear, aggression. The dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight. If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny. Consume you it will, as it did Obi-Wan’s apprentice.”
People with strong self-awareness still struggle against these destructive emotions when they feel them, resisting the urge to blurt out something hurtful or begin an action without thinking.
By asking questions such as “What makes a colleague’s decision a good one, or a bad one?” during each coaching conversation, renewal coaches can offer support and guidance as you become more emotionally self-aware – almost the grown-up version of remembering to “put on your thinking cap” and engage in processing and reflecting on responses rather than instinctively acting to the world around us.
Recognizing your emotions is the first step in moving from negativity and towards a mindset of allowing your emotions to heal and renew your drive and energy from day to day. At our upcoming Recognition webinar, we’ll discuss how to recognize these emotions and divert their energy from being destructive, to being positive.
RSVP for your “virtual seat” for our free webinar on August 18 where we will explore the element of “Recognition” and apply it to “Defining Moments: How to Make Decisions that Sustain Your Best Initiatives.” And visit the Renewal Coaching Web site to find out the latest on Renewal Coaching webinars, receive the Renewal Coaching newsletter, and more.